Your Business Strategy Is Missing a Key Ingredient: Yo’ Mamma

Are you looking to improve your business strategy? Here’s why the first call you make should be to yo’ momma.

Executive Summary

  • People outside your business notice things you have stopped seeing.
  • Explaining your business situation to outsiders requires simplicity. Simplicity requires mastery. Practicing teeing up the right questions will help you hone your understanding of the situation.
  • Whether an outsider’s view helps you depends on you rather than on them.
  • See opportunity beyond the walls of your business. You will pick up useful things about your own business just by paying attention as you go through your day.
  • Try asking your business question to 5 different people. Each conversation sharpens the way you explain the problem. You may also land on a better question than the one you started with.
A spectrum from recognized experts like consultants on one end to everyday people like your mom on the other, both offering real business perspective.Good ideas do not require a credentialBoth ends of this line can hand you a useful outside view.Recognized expertsEveryday perspectivesAdvanced degrees, TED talks, professionalstrategy consultantsYour mom, your mail carrier, or the personnext to youCall an expert whenthe problem needs technical depth nobody in theroom already has.Ask someone new whenyou need a fresh set of eyes on a problem youalready understand well.
A Harvard professor is available once in a lifetime, your mom is available tomorrow, and either one can hand you the perspective your strategy is missing.

Fresh eyes help you assess your external and internal factors

You probably think you know how to identify the people who can best help your business. They have advanced degrees. They’ve done TED talks. They’re strategy consultants. In short, they’re recognized experts. Deciding who owns the strategy conversation inside your business matters just as much as who you bring in.

Yes, those people can help, but they’re not the only ones. You can get great ideas from a Harvard professor, but you can also get great ideas in the bathtub. In fact, your bathtub has some big advantages over a Harvard professor. It’s free; it’s easily accessible. You might get advice from a Harvard professor once in a lifetime, but you can get in the tub whenever you want.

It’s the same with your mom. You can call her up tomorrow. She can provide fresh eyes and a new perspective on your business and its environment. Just as important, she can challenge your preconceptions about who is “worthy” to consult with your business.

Ask Yourself

Are you closing off opportunities to connect with people who could help your business? What might you get from a “non-expert” perspective?

If the story is too complex, that’s because you don't understand it

If you think your business problem is too complex to explain to your mom—or your mail carrier, or your grocery clerk—it’s not because they aren’t smart enough to understand it. It’s because you don’t understand the problem well enough to explain it simply!

If you don’t understand the story you’re telling, you can’t ask the right questions to outsiders (let alone folks inside your organization). If you can’t ask the right questions, you can’t get the full value from talking to Mom (or anyone else).

To get the information you need from others, slow down and think about it strategically. What are your priorities? What part of your business do you need to focus on? What could someone outside your business tell you about how buyers are behaving right now? Often, this is as simple as talking about customers—after all, they’re the ones who buy things. Start there. For B2C businesses, your mom could possibly be a potential customer—another reason to talk to her. Naming your 10 urgent moves is a practical way to focus that conversation on priorities.

Quote: if you don't understand the story you're telling, you can't ask the right questions to outsiders.“Ifyoudon'tunderstandthestoryyou'retelling,youcan'tasktherightquestionstooutsiders.Yates JarvisFounder, 2 Visions
When you can explain the problem simply to an outsider, you understand it well enough to ask them the right questions.
Ask Yourself

What areas of focus will deliver the highest-value insights? What questions do you need to ask and how will you ask them?

Everyone is an unturned stone of opportunity for your business; anticipate!

To improve your business strategy, start looking for insights everywhere you go. Everyone and everything can be an opportunity to stimulate ideas.

Recently I met with a former SVP of Sears who is working with some quantum physicists on a startup. We got into a conversation about a tire company where he had gone to get his tires fixed. Instead of flicking around on his iPhone, he decided to use that visit as a way to challenge his assumptions about customer service. What differentiates high-performing businesses? How do they guarantee great service across different divisions? What priorities do they have in place to fund that level of service? We got so much value out of that discussion—not because he was a genius, but because a customer at a tire store had his eyes open and noticed how the business was run. You don’t need to be an executive of a Fortune 500 business to do this. You just need to expect much from what looks like little, the way he did.

All around you are accessible businesses, organizations, or people within a business or an organization. There’s opportunity to get new insights all around us. Your life is your bathtub! Be anticipatory and ask yourself, “Why am I seeing this? What can I get from this?” If you have your eyes open, you’ll see 50 opportunities today that might spark a life-changing idea in your business.

This approach should trickle down to the entire company. Your senior team should show that outside ideas help them. Everyone else then sees that learning from other people is part of the job. Once employees at all levels are encouraged to bring what they learn from others into the business, it’s almost impossible to stop that business from learning and growing rapidly. A fractional marketing leader can show your team what staying open to outside ideas looks like day to day.

Four stages of noticing spreading through a company, from one person to senior leaders modeling it to teams seeing it valued to the whole company learning.How noticing spreads through a companyOne open conversation is not the same as a company that learns from everyone it meets.One person noticesThe whole company learnsOne person noticessomething smallA tire store visit becomes areal observationSenior leaders act on itopenlyThey show outside input isworth their timeWhere the shift usually startsTeams see thatnoticing is valuedLearning stops being aprivate habitLearning spreadscompany-wideEmployees at every levelbring in outside inputWhat keeps the pattern from spreadingSenior leaders who visibly use outside input make it acceptable for everyone else to do the same.
Learning spreads once senior leaders show that outside input is worth paying attention to.
Ask Yourself

How can you keep your eyes open to opportunities that might spark new ideas? How can you encourage this attitude throughout the organization?

Messy conversations help you stretch your muscles

Conversations with Mom and others like her will be messy and confusing at times. You’ll get frustrated. Mom will get frustrated. She may not understand your industry’s jargon. She may not know what ROI or UX means. She may go off on tangents.

Those messy conversations teach you how to steer a rambling talk back to what matters for your business. That’s a muscle you need to stretch in order to take inputs and ideas from all over the place and use them to help your strategy.

If you don’t stretch that muscle, the only resources you’ll have to help your business are nuggets of advice, people telling you what to do, or you telling yourself what to do. All of those can be echo chambers, all of them can be lonely, and all of it can make you feel out of control.

Talking with people this way also changes how you judge what your time is worth. We’re so focused on getting ROI from our time. But being open to messy conversations, slower interactions, or longer interactions can help a modern executive see how “wasting” two hours in a tire store may not be a waste at all.

Skipping a messy conversation leaves nuggets of advice and an echo chamber, while having one builds real understanding of the problem.Why a messy conversation is worth keepingSkipping the discomfort and sitting through it lead to different places.SKIPPEDNuggets of advicePeople telling you whatto doTalking to yourselfsoAn echo chamberLonely and easy to feel outof controlHADCorralling a ramblingdiscussionWorking pastunfamiliar jargonValuing time spentlisteningsoReal understandingof the problemBuilt by sitting through thediscomfortA messyconversationJargon-free, off-topic,with someone outsideyour usual circle ofexpertsleaves you withbuildsThe two paths this article contrasts for a messy conversation.
The messy conversation is where the real understanding of the problem gets built.
Ask Yourself

Are you prepared to corral the conversation without controlling it? Can you guide the discussion without shutting down the flow of ideas?

Speaking with non-execs helps you refine your presentation logic

When you bring someone from the outside into your internal dialogue, you need to cut to the chase. She probably doesn’t want buzzwords or abbreviations. Talking to Mom forces you to explain the business the way you would in an elevator pitch. You’ve got to be able to say it simply, you’ve got to be able to say it powerfully, and you’ve got to tee up the right questions.

Have five, 10, or 20 of these conversations in a week and see how it improves the way you present your ideas. The value isn’t only in what the people you talk to say. It’s about how you change your presentation based on who you’re talking to, what they don’t say, and how they respond to you.

This refining process prepares you for presenting in-house so you can better sell your ideas internally. You will also learn how people react to your ideas, which helps when you need a team behind a change.

Ask Yourself

What is and isn’t working in your presentation? How should you tailor your approach for different audiences?

Business strategy that’s developed solely by executives and experts can become an echo chamber. Without outside perspectives and input, your strategy will be missing a key ingredient for success. Do you really want to improve your strategy? Call your mother.  Bringing in an outside ecommerce consultant can add that same missing perspective when the stakes are higher.

Published on
October 3, 2019
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